Adjusting Parenting Skills

Mustafa Majid

Principal, St. Xavier’s High School, Bhiwani

As a child grows, develops, learn and matures, so does the parenting role, believes

The essentials remain the same trust, unconditional love and respect. However, the challenges a parent of today has to face are unprecedented. It is impossible to shield a child from certain things in this age. All the information a child wants on any subject is just a click away. In such a climate, much more sensitivity is required from parents. They need to accept that their children are well equipped to deal with life than they were.

Parents need to be school’s partners in their children’s development. Apart from monthly parent teacher meets to discuss students’ scholastic as well as personal growth, several steps to involve parents as much as possible should be taken. Parents could help the school in taking classes during short leaves of teachers. Besides, foreign exchange programmes also allow them to provide home stays and, as a result, play an active role in the cultural learning process.

The Modern parent is vying for their children’s time all the time. They not just have children’s friends as competition but the television, laptop, phone and the internet to compete with as well. Parents also feel pressured to push their children to take up courses that they feel are more ‘prestigious’. This need to be avoided at all costs. Patients today are often stuck with the feeling that they are not doing enough, because more and more families have two working parents which they perceive as detrimental to their children’s growth. I urge them to relax and make the most of the time they have by using it constructively.

There is no definite ‘method’ that works in every situation. This age is unprecedented in parenting. Parents require a fluid approach to tackle any situation that comes up without making the child feel belittled and engaging them in dialogue. Today’s children cannot be manipulated by lies or superstitions. Honesty and transparency is the only ‘method’ that words.

The first question that these students need to ask themselves is Do – really want to pursue this? If the answer here is yes, they need to look closer at their motivation for this particular field. If their interest is genuine and they feel that they have the skills to succeed, they should try their best to explain to their parents the benefits of their chosen field

“Parents require a fluid approach to tackle any situation that comes up without making the child feel belittled and engaging them in dialogue”

Mustafa Majid

Principal, St. Xavier’s High School, Bhiwani