Positive Parenting Skills

Veena Gaur

Principal, VIBGYOR High School, Gurugram

We all know that good parenting is a skill, and to master this skill, you need to constantly communicate effectively and efficiently with your children. While verbal communication is and has been the most essential and effective way to connect it has now been observed that, more than that it is the sensitivity to each other’s feelings that helps create a stronger bond between the parents and the children. As a parent, you need to be more expressive and need to articulate your feelings, more often than being commanding.

Importance of Communication

Communicating with children is like reaping the bountiful harvest, which parents sowed years ago. Each child wants to be heard, recognised, and appreciated. No matter what their age is, they want to be supported in all their decisions and forgiven easily for their mistakes. For a parent, meeting such expectations may not be easy at all times, especially when they have a crucial role to play in the child's decision-making ability and want to build a conscientious discretion power in them.

While in today's world, parents seem to be better equipped with handling the psychological-emotional turmoil children go through, but they don't always come up with the best possible solution to it.

Parents need to be affirmative yet diplomatic. Communication with children has to be done in a dynamic way to develop a strong connection with them. They need to make themselves heard not force themselves through.

Parents need to be affirmative yet diplomatic. Communication with children has to be done in a dynamic way to develop a strong connection with them. They need to make themselves heard not force themselves through.

Children feel a greater sense of belonging when parents communicate on an on-going basis with them. When parents communicate with children, they successfully create trust and loyalty towards them. The idea is not to sabotage their goal and ambition but to motivate them to pursue them. Children evolve as mature individuals when parents show an increasing interest in their dreams and desires.

Sides of Communication

Every process has a methodology to it, and it is not surprising to know that for communication to be effective, it has to be done in a healthy manner. Like every coin has a flip side, a meaningless conversation too can have its repercussions.

Be straightforward

Sometimes it is not good to beat around the bush but to come straight to the point. Parents too can go through emotional turmoil when it comes to expressing their feelings. All you need to do is to be clear about what you communicate and how you communicate. An average parent fails to understand that not expressing can amount to not communicating.

Clarity of purpose

Communicating does not always mean that you lay down a book of rules for your child. It is also imperative that parents communicate to nurture children to be better human beings.

On-going communication

Children want to be heard. At times, communication can be done to create room for repose, reflection and recreation of the bond. You must develop a healthy habit to communicate frequently with your children and on various topics - be it trivial or insignificant.

Don’t be an authoritarian

As a parent, you tend to be too demanding with what a child is expected to do. Instead, you should act as a guide to help children weigh out things for themselves.

Don't let your child feel cut-off

No matter what the situation is, you should not make the child think that they cannot come back to you on certain topics; however, sensitive they may be.

Parents may differ, but good parenting does not. It is a skill which parents are required to acquire to help children develop the many skills to lead a successful life.

Veena Gaur

Principal, VIBGYOR High School, Gurugram